I get that you really care about marriage equality. But if the only reason you’re not getting married is because “The Gays” can’t, please, just get married.
If you don’t really need marriage, how are we supposed to make the case that we really need it? If your (lack of) marriage holds sway over the institution of marriage, how are we supposed to say that our (lack of) marriage doesn’t?
So yeah, don’t get married. Or do. Whatever. But don’t blame it on us.